Post by Deleted on May 9, 2007 10:00:37 GMT -1
After talking about different attitudes to leaving kids unattended at the camps yesterday, I caught the end of a discussion on neglect on the news this morning, and it did make me wonder what other people with similar values to my own feel constitutes neglect, or endangerment where kids are concerned?
I don't agree that leaving a child unattended equals placing them in danger, and I think the distinction people draw between what is and isn't neglect can be very ridiculous at times. As an example, my little boy's grandparents have mentioned that my leaving him home alone to pop to the shop is neglecting him and placing him in danger - however, the shop is right next door and it takes me less time (usually 5 minutes at the most) to do that than it would to take a shower, during which unless he emitted a piercing cream right outside the bathroom door (and did it while I wasn't washing my hair) I'd be unaware of what was going on. That doesn't make any sense to me. I give him as many instructions for what not to do while I'm in the shower as I do when I'm leaving him in the house alone, and I don't worry about him any more when I'm in the shop than I do when I'm in the shower. I always know exactly what he's planning on doing while I'm otherwise engaged in both situations, and I know he'll stick to doing whatever we agreed and heed any things he's been told not to do while I'm not around.
My feeling on the subject is that as long as you're certain a child will not be in any danger, you're not leaving them unattended for long, and you've left them with instructions prior to leaving (and informed them how long you'll be, so they feel secure) it shouldn't be an issue once they're at an age where they'll follow those instructions and they're sensible enough not to stick their fingers in a plug or play submarines in the sink with the toaster.
What does everyone else think? Where do you feel the line is drawn between encouraging self-sufficiency and giving children too much responsobility/neglecting their safety?
I don't agree that leaving a child unattended equals placing them in danger, and I think the distinction people draw between what is and isn't neglect can be very ridiculous at times. As an example, my little boy's grandparents have mentioned that my leaving him home alone to pop to the shop is neglecting him and placing him in danger - however, the shop is right next door and it takes me less time (usually 5 minutes at the most) to do that than it would to take a shower, during which unless he emitted a piercing cream right outside the bathroom door (and did it while I wasn't washing my hair) I'd be unaware of what was going on. That doesn't make any sense to me. I give him as many instructions for what not to do while I'm in the shower as I do when I'm leaving him in the house alone, and I don't worry about him any more when I'm in the shop than I do when I'm in the shower. I always know exactly what he's planning on doing while I'm otherwise engaged in both situations, and I know he'll stick to doing whatever we agreed and heed any things he's been told not to do while I'm not around.
My feeling on the subject is that as long as you're certain a child will not be in any danger, you're not leaving them unattended for long, and you've left them with instructions prior to leaving (and informed them how long you'll be, so they feel secure) it shouldn't be an issue once they're at an age where they'll follow those instructions and they're sensible enough not to stick their fingers in a plug or play submarines in the sink with the toaster.
What does everyone else think? Where do you feel the line is drawn between encouraging self-sufficiency and giving children too much responsobility/neglecting their safety?